what is self-intimacy?
“People think that intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth. When you realize you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them and their response is “you’re safe with me” – that’s intimacy.”
If this is intimacy, then what is Self-Intimacy?
Self-intimacy is taking this desire that most (dare I say ALL, even if you aren’t aware of it) of us have and becoming it for ourselves, creating a new way of being, stepping into the new & ancient consciousness of, what Charles Eisenstein calls, interbeing.
When we create a relationship of safety and trust within ourselves, we create an atmosphere in which the truth can emerge.
Safety looks like: non-judgment, curiosity, an openness to new possibilities, a willingness to feel, unconditional compassion, a container of clarity.
Trust grows with time– after continuing to show up for yourself with a willingness to feel, be curious, be open to new possibilities, to setting boundaries with and questioning the internal voices of shame, of holding yourself tenderly when afraid until the fear moves and the strength emerges, of letting your answer be “no” for as long as it needs to be.
Safety and trust do not happen when there is a consciousness of judgment, either/or, better than, force, pressure, should, or expectation.
These are the old ways of being, the old paradigm or consciousness. When we use old consciousness techniques and expect healing or change, it cannot happen. More of the same creates more of the same.
Women of A New Way know, even if just via a barely perceivable whisper deep deep down in the darkness of her subconscious, that there is a divine, intelligent, all-powerful love that is always leading her home.
When this soul-knowing has an opportunity to be in an environment where it can grow and thrive, it eventually becomes the blueprint from which you operate from, as is meant to be.
When you cultivate a relationship of self-intimacy through safety and trust, the truth of who you are and why you are here can blossom and overflow from your being into the world around you.
This, soul fam, is how we create true, sustainable change. From the inside out. And this, beloveds, is where we walk each other home.
Because Self-Intimacy, safety, trust and truth are often far away, seemingly unattainable experience for most of us, joining circles, retreats, courses or private sessions will give you a reference point and an experience that can be drawn from and built upon much more efficiently than if you were to work towards this alone.
You don’t have to do this alone.
You are not alone, and in my experience, this work is so much sweeter when we do it together. Because while this work happens at an individual, personal level, it is ultimately collective evolutionary work to bring us all back together.
The next online circle is happening March 25th and the next weekend immersion retreat is May 31-June 2. There are still spaces available and it would be such a pleasure to have you there if you are feeling pulled to this work (click links to read more.) If you prefer a more intimate setting, or are ready to refine your healing and reclamation, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org to set up a feeler call for a private one on one session.
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